Prepare to enter the wild and wooly world of an adult with Aspergers Syndrome, a form of autism characterized by intellignce, quirks, social difficulties and downright strange and oddish behaviours.

People with Aspergers generally are high functioning in everyday life but have great difficulty connecting with others due to the inability to read faces, body language and subtle verbal clues. They also tend to take words literally and have a hard time multi-tasking.

Oversensitivity to touch (clothing has to be soft and often the tags removed), light (do not leave home without the sunglasses), sound (loud noises and noisey places are avoided), taste (many Aspies have quite a limited diet and are frequently very picky eaters) and smells makes the everyday existence more of a challenge.

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To find out more about what Aspergers is..please check out my earliest blog entries

Thursday, May 10, 2012

Amy and Aspergers...how it feels

8 comments:

  1. AMY! HI! I watched this video. Just wanted to tell you that I totally understand some of what you are going through. I had the random realization the other day that this is never going to get any better. I don't know if maybe subconsciously I thought at some point in the future, things would change and I would be better. LOL But I just realized... I will always be this way. It is so depressing. I hope that I haven't spewed my negativity on your page, but I thought you would understand what I felt that day.

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  2. Just Smile and Nod, wow, great comment. Thank you for watching and understanding. You said it perfectly! :) Amy

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  3. Hi Amy

    Enjoy your writing and as a person with Aspergers who also was sexually and physically abused I have found it helpful to learn about Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder as well as Avoidant Personality Disorder. The Aspergers gets wrapped up in the trauma of the abuse and it is difficult to understand if it is the Aspergers or the past abuse that is affecting our thoughts and behavior. Kelly

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  4. Hi Kelly' thank you so much. I often wondered if others had the same proble with differentiation. It seems experiences, feelings and event are complexitfied with abuse issues. Being able to separate the two has definitely helped me to understand and heal at a better rate. I'm sorry if you have Aspergers as well as abuse. It' can be quite challenging.
    Its time for me to look up PTSD, as it's been awhile. Yes, Avoidant Personality Disorder seems worthy of a google search as well. Thanks Kelly, Amy

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  5. I have been married for almost 37 yrs and have known my husband for 43 years of my 56 year life (having met him when I was 13). It has only been in the last year that I am thinking that he is an Aspie. I am relatively new to even knowing about the disorder and have been fascinated with the correlation between my husbands "crazy and annoying habits" (said with ALL DUE RESPECT PLEASE), and actual Asperger symptoms. I have been glued to this website for the last few hours. I have jokingly suggested to him that he does have AS, but that is as far as it has gone. I have so many questions, but I suppose my first question would be.... how important is it for him to know? How important is it for me to really know? We have not discussed this on any serious level. I think it is more of an issue for me at the moment as it explains so many not so great times in our relationship over the years. Any advice you can provide would be a tremendous help.

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  6. Hi Merryl,
    I'm glad you found me! Great and valid questions. I didn't find out I had Aspergers until a few years ago. I was soooo relieved to find out I had Aspergers, because it beats being crazy, mentally ill. I really thought I had a number of different mental disorders. Now, all my quirks and eccentricities are validated and made real with my diagnosis.
    I love knowing I have it because it explains why I have always felt so odd and different and was unable to interact socially. I wish I had known when I was a young adult, but, oh well. Now I read books about Aspergers, other blogs and movies. The validation, seeing myself and my symptoms mainstreamed and talked about...priceless.
    I encourage other Aspie readers to express their opinion. From what I know, I am glad I found out, as is my oldest son and a handful of Aspies that I talk to. Everyone expressed the same relief.
    I would think it would be even more beneficial that you understand if your husband has Aspergers. Married 37 years...God love you! My Partner is such a more understanding and better companion because she understands where I am coming from.
    There are some do you have Aspergers? quizzes on line, if you would be interested.
    I am more than happy to try and answer any questions. Thank you so much for finding me and sharing:) Amy

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    1. Hi Amy, Thanks for replying so quickly. I am so overwhelmed by this epiphany that it's going to take me some time to digest it all. First of all, I am not so sure my husband would want to know. I "joked" about it when he was getting on my nerves with a few issues and even discussed it with my kids - but not with any real seriousness or validity. I even suggested to a friend who recently graduated with a PhD in psychology, that my hubby might be on the spectrum, but he was very quick to dismiss it as he has known us for many years also. But most folks don't see the intimate manifestations that I live with day to day. He is very OCD with many things. Pictures need to be straight. Loves organization of trucks in a parking lot, Tupperware containers in fridge, things not in bags but in structured containers, etc. Always annoyed after cleaning lady leaves house - cords not in same location as they were found, etc. Hates tags on t-shirts as he doesn't like the feel against his neck. Dislikes being touched - especially feet, very ticklish. Wears sunglasses often. Privacy issues extreme = passwords on phone & computer. No compassion for and dislikes most animals. Never had dog, cat, etc. Prefers solitude to social situations. Extremely intelligent, likes to be the center of attention with jokes. Egocentric on most issues. Personal injury attorney & hates losing!! Can't put himself in other people's shoes too easily. Just to name a few of his peculiarities...... So, does this sound like he may reside on your side of the world? Love him to death, but he is a tough cookie!!! Looking forward to more conversations with you. I will look for those quizzes...

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  7. Hi Merryl, very, very interesting. I am no diagnostician, but he has many of the traits and hallmark characteristics. My father, who I inherited my Aspergers from, isn't interested in knowing or exploring the idea either. I respect people's opinions. It's a personal decision.
    Have you thought about watching the movie, "Adam"? It would give you the opportunity to see an Aspie in action, even though Adam is...a little lower on the spectrum.
    Anyone who would briefly interact with me, would be very hard pressed to believe I had autism, because I appear high functioning. Thanks for writing and asking. I'll help if I can, Amy

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