In her office it quickly became clear that she was intentionally talking in an overly loud voice. This is not new. I have frequently encountered others who upon knowing of my Autism feel that being Autistic must make me a little deaf in this ear or that and they will talk in an exaggerated and loud manner.
My kind landlord has always done this and I have yet to gumption the courage to talk her down and ask her to lower her voice to a normal level.
I was encouraged to speak up with this staff worker as the acoustics in her tiny office provoked me to desire to cover both ears tightly with both hands. I waited till she finished a sentence and then I struck: Could you lower your voice a little, please?
She readily complied. I breathed a huge inner sigh of relief. Such acts of bravery are few and far in-between for thee.
I am so grateful, proud and pleased that I could speak for myself, out loud, and make a mandatory event less painful.
One thing I consciously did do was try to surmise whether her voice was naturally loud by nature (like a couple of my elderly neighbors) or if she was doing it due to my Autism. It did require a few minutes of careful listening to determine it probably but not positively was due to my Aspergers. The manner in which she easily slid into a non-loud tone told me I was most likely correct. Heck, a normal speaking voice does not rattle the walls.
So, that is one aspect to consider as it would be offensive to ask of someone who usually moderated in that tone.
It is not uncommon for others to speak to me in a louder-than-normal voice upon learning I am Autustic.
It is acceptable to politely ask someone to lower their voice, too.
Feeling brave. Hooray!
