It's a gamble, eye contact. I want to see all the positives, but the negatives can be too saddening.
I have seen a number of things. Someone wore "dead eyes", telling me that I was unworthy, disappointing, of no worth or value to them.
I see sparkles of happiness or " I'm glad to see you" in the most unlikely places, often times those clerks at the store that I enjoy chatting with.
I can see where peoples are satisfied with their life and the direction it is going.
Troubled eyes bother me, when I don't know if it's at all about me or some other facet of ones life.
So many people have such pain. Hmmm, I wonder if that is one reason that I couldn't look in the mirror for lo these many years.
I think I avoid eye contact when I don't want to see too much into someone else's life, or it hurts too much. Often I don't want to share, give away so much of what is going on inside of me, either.
Body Language, BL
Again, being a visual species once learned, BL can be mastered by the Aspie. I remember reading quite a few books on the subject in high school. It is quite interesting and fairly easy to learn, once you acquire the basics. Of course, sometimes when I am passionately engaged in speaking, I completely forget to look for clues and I have been known to misread them. Overall, I find it, BL a useful indicator of a persons mood and feeling. I highly recommend reading books or Internet articles regarding body language.
Eldest wrote and said that he is enjoying the television show "The Mentalist" because there is a lot of information regarding body language and postures.
Body Language signs and meanings can be learned and are a useful tool for autistics.