What we frequently overlook are the possible positive and beneficial qualities of being completely alone.
Alone can mean freedom, a personal freedom impossible when one has to answer to family obligations or friends invitations. Freedom to be exactly who you are without external influences, opinions and pressures.
Alone means I do not have to constantly consider how my actions within my own home, may affect those I live with. I can leave the dirty dishes in the sink until I feel compelled to do them not when my partner expects it or my kid makes a snarky comment.
Alone allows me to understand this new concept called "inertia" wherein a property of matter by which it continues in its existing state of rest or uniform motion in a straight line, unless that state is changed by an external force. I put my open journal of private thoughts and musings upon the living room table. It will not move from that location unless I choose to move it. No one will read or comment on my private personal notes. I have gained the freedoms of inertia as well as new found privacy.
The open bag of pretzels will remain exactly where I leave it. Not a single additional pretzel will be removed until I choose to do so.
I have freedom to choose if and when I do something.
I am free to lay upon the couch and bingewatch Star Treks for days at a time while eating nuts and drinking soda. No harm. No foul. No sin. No one cares. But I may have a fantastic time doing just that.
Alone allows me to discover who I really am.
Without a partner, without raising children, I am someone completely different and new. Me.
I really don't know who I am, yet, but each day alone gives me some small clues.
Alone can be necessary in order to discover who you are and what makes you tick.
Do that. Be you.
